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[victorianpirate]

"Don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option."

This is a well-phrased encapsulation of the main reason I don't date much. I don't mind being an option as long as I know that's where I stand; but when I'm dating someone, they're my priority, and that needs to be reciprocal.

Comments

[tinman-landofoz.livejournal.com]

I like to think of my relationships as "I don't need you in my life. I want you to share it with me."

So, I don't know where that falls into your optional vs. priority view. But I can agree with shirtlifterbear.

[inkandalchemy.livejournal.com]

Actually I completely agree with you. If someone is a priority simply by default because you need them around, because you can't survive without them, that's just plain not healthy. I believe in actively choosing to make someone a priority because you value their presence in your life. I merely meant that choosing to make someone a priority if they're going to treat you like this is just as unhealthy.